Dancing Tango with Kastani

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Something has shifted. I feel calm and deep as the ocean on a still day. In tune with myself. In tune with my horses. There is no attachment to outcome, only curiosity and a sincere desire to connect. The horses feel the shift, showing they approve by seeking interactions with me.

Kastani is my barometer, his body reflecting my emotional tone like a finely tuned antenna. Past reflections highlighted how intense I could be. Focused, determined, tense. I thought I was relaxed and breathing, but Kastani would stand still as a statue, head high, back tight, not breathing. Guarded. Working in hand he was often resistant, and on my really bad days he’d resort to poking my arm with his nose or grabbing my shirt cuff in his teeth, so frustrated.

Maybe I wasn’t breathing after all? Maybe I wasn’t as relaxed as I thought I was?

Horses are so good at letting me know when I still have work to do. It’s easy to get caught up in trying to ‘fix’ them. Change or shape their behaviors to suit my needs. My goal was to help Kastani feel better in his body and enjoy movement. We have to start somewhere. I really thought the movement inefficiencies I saw were HIS patterns that I could support and shift. Now I wonder if what I saw was mostly a reflection of my own issues? My own inefficiencies impeding his ability to move freely?

People that immerse themselves in Argentine Tango get addicted. In some circles they call it ‘the sickness’. It happened to me. I became addicted to moving together in ‘close embrace’. Dancing in close proximity highlights everything. Everything the leader does is amplified tenfold on the receiving end. I can smell him, taste him, hear him breathe, feel his heart beat, sense his emotional state, and every move he makes instantaneously translates into my body, moving me inexorably with him. When there is rapport with a leader it is intoxicating and mesmerizing.

When I follow, I am an accurate reflection of my partner’s state of being. If he’s intense and critical I feel it and brace myself. I know how much trust it takes to let go of my own guarding and fully commit to my partner and the dance. Whether or not I can let go and dance freely has little to do with my own skill level. As a rank beginner I danced quite well with leaders who gave me room to breathe and couldn’t dance at all with a leader who was tense. The leader has so much responsibility to pay attention to how his partner is feeling and adapt accordingly.

The leaders who inspired me were calm and deep as the ocean on a still day…

Yesterday Kastani walked right over and offered himself up for interaction. I was so surprised I thought he must be looking for a good scratching. But he showed no interest in being scratched so I grabbed a halter and put it on him. We know each other well enough by now that I know he likes to get on with it, get into the meaty stuff and not belabor kindergarten moves.

He wanted to interact with me because he could sense the change in me. He could sense the calm, deep well that is no longer interested in fixing him or making things happen. It’s a funny place to inhabit as the leader of the dance. There are clear parameters, the rope and halter replacing the arms to create the Tango ’embrace’. Kastani, accepting my suggested parameters, lifts his back, becoming light in my hands and we dance.

There were no movement inefficiencies for me to ‘correct’ or fix. We refine and adjust our connection to one another fluidly, by mutual agreement. There is nothing quite like the feeling of being this intimately connected to a horse. Bound to each other by physical means gives us immediate and accurate feedback about the quality of our communication. Our senses awaken, present in each moment, adaptable, forgiving, accountable to one another.

I have ‘the sickness’ again, but this time it’s for dancing with my horses!

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In Gratitude for Horses

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In honor of one of my great teachers – Dillenger – who taught me one more lesson last week as we consciously navigated his passing on from this rich life together. I look forward to feeling his support from the other side. I know he approves of the direction I’m taking and that is good.

Five years ago, I dove down a rabbit hole with my herd. It seemed time to stop taking lesson after lesson, attempting to implement other people’s ideas about horse training. Now was the time to integrate what I had learned and find my own path.

Best laid plans.

I became a student again, but this time the horses became my teachers.

The herd had quite specific ideas about what I needed to learn. Over the period of a year they carefully shaped me into the kind of person they felt good about interacting with. That rabbit hole just keeps getting deeper. The further I go down it the more I realize how simple and straight forward horses are. All this time I labored under the misconception that I needed to ‘train’ them when it was me that needed the training.

My herd is comprised almost entirely of horses that do not fit the mold. In their humble opinion they are not the ones needing training! The best decision I ever made was deciding to let those horses teach me. Their lessons included everything from how to be still,  to how to be present, how to move,  how to palpate, and do bodywork that is led by them. Now they are starting to teach me how to do work in hand and ride. It’s the most rewarding thing in the world to learn directly from the horse!

Thanks to the horses and their prodding, I’ve focused almost entirely on training myself, upgrading myself to be a better partner for my horses. My whole life I’ve focused on the horse more than myself. The most basic question horsemanship seems to consider is ‘how do I get my horse to do what I want as efficiently and effectively as possible?’ To that end training centers around ‘fixing’ the horse. Shaping their behaviors to suit our needs.

When I interpret/implement that style of horsemanship I transform into a bit of a control freak. When I am rehabbing injured horses, well, then I turn into a control freak on steroids! It is all about fixing the horse…

And I get results.

But they don’t stick when the horses go home.

Why?

Because it isn’t the horses that need fixing. Their lameness and health issues are a reflection of the things that go on in their lives that aren’t working for them. Those things must be resolved in order for them to fully recover. ‘Those things’ are many and varied, encompassing everything from diet to management to training and more.

I rarely travel to work on horses away from home anymore, but when I do, I marvel at how magical if feels to connect with horses other than my own. This weekend I feel fortunate I got to spend time with a horse that new me from my rehab days. As I began interacting, I felt how he softened the more he realized I was not going to try to make him do anything. He showed me exactly where he’s struggling in his movement, body and mind. Responding to what he told me (through his behavior, posture and movement), I gave him input I thought might support him. By the end of our short in hand session he was floating along beside me in a bitless bridle, responding to the tiniest of adjustments in my body position and tone.

The feeling when this happens is indescribable.

Yesterday I went to consult about a mare with lameness issues. She’s quite uncomfortable and it makes her justifiably cranky. Thanks to the training my horses gave me I learned how to approach this kind of situation with tact. This mare, who really did not know me at all, took one look at me, saw that I responded appropriately to her communication, and was all in from that moment on. She showed me exactly where she needed support and then worked with me to facilitate everything she needed to feel better in her body.

It’s easy to get bogged down in training theories, learning theories, the finer points of biomechanics, anatomy, physiology and brain function. Easy to get lost in which tools to purchase, what tack to use, whether or not it’s even ethical to ride. In short, it’s easy to get all bound up in the details, in our mind, losing sight of what’s most important to our horses – connection. Something shifted in the last few months. I let go of the control freak (no really, I did) and show up ready to listen. And it’s all so very simple and uncomplicated.

I’ll leave you with a quote I think should be spread far and wide:

From Katy Bowman’s Nutritious Movement (ReAlignment ReEvolution)

‘Watch your habits, for they become your posture.

Watch your posture, for it creates your boundaries.

Watch your boundaries, for they restrict your growth.

Watch your restrictions, for they create immobility.

Watch your immobility, for it becomes your illness.’

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Healthy Boundaries

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Huey making me laugh. He’s so gentle I feel completely comfortable letting him nuzzle my cheek but I also can feel his energy and intention and can move him away if necessary.

I love feeding my horses. There are sixteen of them here right now. Feeding is always entertaining. You never know what kind of mood the horses will be in. They change with the weather and the seasons. We know each other really well. For example, Wizard, though smaller in stature, definitely claims his food before Wayne, his gigantic warmblood buddy. Wayne often does what I refer to as his popcorn impersonation when it’s breakfast time – bouncing around with great enthusiasm! He can be intimidating! But I love that he and Wizard feel free to express themselves and show me their personalities. It sure makes it easy to tell when someone isn’t feeling well!

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The herd at feeding time.

Wizard waits at the gate and often backs up to his feed tub so as not to take his nose off the bucket in my hand. The look on his face when he eats is priceless. Wayne bobs around in the background knowing better than to snitch from Wizard (who has very clear boundaries around food). I don’t have to worry about Wayne and his energy, I just walk with a measured pace to his feed tub, standing tall and owning my space. He falls in a few feet away, prancing and dancing in perfect balance and never touches me once. I didn’t have to ‘teach’ him to keep out of my space, he instinctively recognizes and respects my boundaries, as I have respected his over our years together.

It’s this way will all my horses. We respect each other’s boundaries. We all pay attention and move with each other. There is a flow to feeding times that is a testament to our mutual respect. Part of the reason it flows is because I pay attention to how they line themselves up, and feed in the order they determine rather than trying to make up and enforce my own rules. We adapt to one another and find the flow. That flow often changes with the seasons. It also changes as herd members age or have health challenges. To me, it’s all information that informs dietary changes and things I might need to attend otherwise.

When people come to visit my herd, they always remark about how easy going and friendly they are. But what really amazes them is how calm they are. They wonder how I got my horses to respect my boundaries… I can think of a handful of times in all my years with horses where I felt I had to enforce a boundary in a physical way. Those were times when horses came to me with habits that put myself or the people helping me, in danger. Otherwise most of what we might consider boundary crossing behavior problems were symptoms of something else.

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Jack, for example, developed a habit of biting people. He did it because he was in quite a lot of physical pain. Once the physical issues were managed it still took some time for him to let go of the habit of biting. I didn’t cure him of biting by punishing the behavior. He let go of the habit when the underlying issue was resolved. In the meantime, I knew his pattern and could find ways to work around him that allowed him to express himself without actually biting me.

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Jack getting body work with no  bite in site.

I think one of the worst things taught in some horsemanship circles is this idea that I should never let the horse move my feet or he’ll think he’s in charge. I’ve seen more people get hurt by standing in the horse’s flight path, refusing to budge when a horse is coming in hot. In my experience, none of my horses have ever taken advantage of me for moving with them instead of standing my ground.

It’s important for us to remember that we set the tone. Horses learn how to interact with people from people. I’ll never forget watching a client greet her horse she hadn’t seen for a while. She got right in his face, all snuggly, baby talking and feeding him carrots. She initiated the conversation by putting herself right in his mouth. As she led him to her tacking up area he reached over and touched her hand with his nose. She balled up her fist and punched him in the nose…..

Because he invaded her space and she had to set a boundary….

I’ve watched people stand beside their horse during feeding time typing away on their cell phone and then punishing their horse for coming into their space when the horse next to them charged them. Then they expect their horse to trust them and want to work with them. We almost always have a very small window in which to make decisions about to move or not to move. To enforce a boundary or step out of the way. If you miss that very small window the chances of successfully redirecting the horse’s physical energy are slim. Might as well just get out of the way and regroup.

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Group bodywork! We have these interactions safely because we are all paying attention and in tune with one another.

I get it. Horses are big. They have incredibly fast reaction times. They can easily hurt us. Healthy boundaries are established so naturally and easily with horses. If I expect my horse to honor my space then I feel it begins with me honoring his. I set the tone of the interactions between us. I can set us both up for success or I can create boundary issues by not being situationally aware. It’s my choice to interact with the horses, not theirs. So I begin by honoring their boundaries.

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Just Breathe

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Kastani at my back reminding me to be open to receiving.

Crumpled in a heap, spent, nothing left. Heaving sobs in the glow of the moonlight, interrupted by an explosive exhale. Kastani has come to investigate the crumpled human folded to the ground just outside his paddock. His calm presence draws me closer, peeling myself off the ground, moving inside the paddock to perch on the edge of the water tank.

He doesn’t come any closer, he doesn’t even look at me. Now I’m aware of how tight my shoulders are, how tired I am, and I hear him sigh as I let go of the tension. How masterfully he has me dropping out of my mental anguish and into my body. Shaking as the stress and grief pass through.

Kastani doesn’t move a muscle. So still and quiet, standing strong a few feet away. No sympathy here. No judgement. Just his quiet presence.

As my body and mind settle, I am aware he is asking me to pay attention. I look intently at his face, seeking a message there. Nothing. Scanning the rest of his body I notice his belly expanding as he inhales audibly. Long, slow exhale. Pause. Huge, big belly breath. Over and over.

“Just breathe.” He says in his wise way.

Matching his inhale, expanding my belly, breathing into my chest, my back, my sides. Matching his exhale, slow, and complete. Pause. Spontaneous full, nourishing inhale. Standing near each other in the moonlight we breathe together for some time. Quiet, deeply peaceful, breathing in steady rhythm until I am just as calm and relaxed as he is.

Sometimes life throws so many challenges our way it’s easy to forget this simple thing that makes all the difference. Just keep breathing. And no matter how hard it gets you can always find a friend to remind you how.

For those of you who are also struggling I share Kastani’s moonlight gift.

Just breathe.

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The Power of Belief

ANDREA RESOURCING

My body is not my friend.

I am not athletic.

I’m too old to do that.

I have an Aunt that used to say ‘what you think about, you bring about’. The power of belief can propel us toward our dreams with astonishing ease, or stop us dead in our tracks. The thoughts and beliefs that take root and grow like weeds are not always the ones that serve our best interests. These well rooted beliefs are insidious, so firmly woven into the fabric of who we are we don’t even know they exist. They lurk in the background creating the perception of limitations that may or may not be accurate.

Those first three sentences are beliefs I discovered rooted in my own subconscious in recent years. I’m too old showed up standing on the rim of the Grand Canyon looking down on the Bright Angel Trail on the cusp of my 50th birthday and realizing it was out of my reach. It was more than just a small pang of regret to realize I would never get to hike to the bottom of the Grand Canyon and back in this lifetime. My knees and feet wouldn’t hold up to a 2 mile hike up and down hills, let alone a hike as ambitious as the Grand.

kolb_brothers_grand_canyon_photography_6We did a tour of the Kolb Brother’s home while we were there. The home they built, literally on the canyon rim back in the 1800’s. The photography studio conveniently located so they could photograph the tourists riding the mules up the final stretch of trail after what was, no doubt, a grand adventure! Quickly developing the images, one of the brothers would be waiting to sell the tourists their photo keepsake. They explored every inch of that canyon in ways that completely blew my mind. An adventurous spirit led them to the Grand and their adaptability and ingenuity helped them forge a life there, filming movies of their canyon adventures that they charged admission for in the movie theater they built onto their home!

How many people do you know in this era that have this kind of adventurous spirit? I came home determined that I would go into my 50th year with a clear path toward getting stronger. No more downhill slide for me! And someday I’ll get back to the Grand and DO that hike! When I got home, I happened upon a video about elderly people doing Parkour in England. I have no idea what prompted me to watch that video, but this is what happens when we let go of a limiting belief and become determined to change. The things we need just show up! The entire philosophy of Parkour resonated so strongly with me that I decided to see if there was a gym in Grand Junction. There was. The owner, Vinnie, was game to take us on and Steve, though he thought I might have lost my mind, joined in!

That was the first mindset shift that began opening doors for me in ways I would never have imagined. I no longer believe I’m too old to do anything.

My body is not my friend and I’m not athletic were deeply embedded. My shoulders are pretty weak. Not really, just unstable because I haven’t known how to train properly to build strength and stability. A year ago, I started training for certification using MovNat principles to teach people over 50 the movements that are natural to the human species. It has been shocking to discover how many basic human movement aptitudes I no longer (possibly never did) have access to. It has been extremely frustrating to find things that I just can’t do. My shoulder and my feet/ankle just won’t support certain movements. There isn’t enough strength to hang, for example, or crawl on my hands and feet.

Did any of you notice what happened in that last paragraph? How many times I said ‘I can’t’ or ‘it won’t’?

This last weekend was my certification training weekend. I came knowing there were two movements I would not pass. I came with trepidation because I have always been among the weakest people in a group of athletes. In my imagination, all the other people in the class would be super fit and leave me in the dust. ‘My body is not my friend’, and’ I’m not athletic’, both showed up in spades on day one. We were sitting on the floor lifting our butts off the ground in preparation to walk on our hands and feet with our bellies up. The cue, lift one hand and one foot to test your stability, left me baffled. I could not un-glue both a hand and a foot from the floor at the same time.

My instructor reminded me that I was doing a very similar ground movement where I have to post on one hand and one leg to make the transition. How was this different? Bingo. All of a sudden, the movement was accessible. And with just a few technique tips I was rocking that inverted foot hand crawl with ease! I thought a lot about what was holding me back on being able to do that in the past. It was all tied up in the beliefs that I am not an athlete. That every time I try to get fit my body breaks down. For the rest of the weekend I let go of any limiting beliefs and opened my mind to the possibility that with the right coaching I was capable of anything.

Eight hours a day on Saturday and Sunday in motion, doing extremely physically demanding movements barefoot, while learning and being tested on our aptitude. Holy cow. Outside of week long back packing trips in my 20’s this is the most physically demanding thing I have ever done. We learned part way through the training that they really did not scale it back much for the over 50 folks because they weren’t sure what we’d be capable of, and they didn’t want to limit us. 18 women over 50 and we all did it! Not only that, but I held my own and was among the stronger people in the group in several areas. Handily busting all my own myths about myself and my body!

I did not pass the two areas I knew I wouldn’t. And I know exactly what I need to do to get there now. I have NO doubt that I’ll have my certification in the next few months. I can see it and I can feel it as though I’m holding that certificate in my hands right now.

It takes focus and determination to change to reach our goals. Can you imagine the things we believe and hold onto that limit the possibilities with our horses? I can’t wait to discover what beliefs I unearth about my horses and my ability to partner with them when I get home and apply all I’ve learned about myself and how to train!

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There is no such thing as ‘bad’ behavior

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Very nervous with a tendency to bolt. Found to have bone spurs throughout his neck that caused intense pain in certain positions. This was his favorite neck stretch.

Horses are masterful at finding ways to move that diminish pain while maintaining the appearance of soundness. A horse can look gorgeous and healthy, be well cared for, and still be compensating for undiagnosed pain. In a predator rich environment this would be part of their survival strategy. In our domesticated world, they work through pain because we ask them to. They will continue to compensate and work for us until something gives.

When something gives it might show up as a clinically diagnosable lameness. Our horse starts visibly limping, for example. It might show up as illness – recurring ulcers or metabolic syndrome can be caused by the stress of chronic pain. But, before lameness and illness there are often early warning signs that show up in the form of changes in behavior.

Some horses hide their discomfort so well that you might not think anything of it. The behaviors are easy to dismiss as something to be trained through. Common training issues can be an early warning sign of a physical issue: refusal to pick up the right lead in canter, difficulty transitioning from one gait to another, trouble standing still at the mounting block, or refusals to turn in one direction or the other, to name just a few. Some behaviors are easy to misinterpret, like the horse that bit at his chest and acted like he was itchy, when in reality he hurt all over.

This horse refused to pick up the right lead canter, would rear, or buck when asked. She charged and struck at people on the ground when asked to canter in a round pen. And she was extremely head shy. She was given a clean bill of health and passed a pre-purchase exam. Ultimately diagnosed: calcification in nuchal ligament near poll, mild navicular changes in one front, damage in right stifle, and a host of other small things that all added up to a lot of discomfort. Same horse on right after some therapeutic work and now, years later, she’s comfortably sound and ridden with understanding for her issues.

Every time I encounter a horse that is behaving ‘badly’, having trouble doing something that from a training perspective should be pretty straight forward, I ask the same question. Are you sure he/she is not in pain? The people that come to me care immensely about their horses. They have done their due diligence. Teeth have been checked, feet are well cared for, nutrition dialed in, tack meticulously fit. They have tried every solution available to them to no avail. Veterinarians and an array of alternative practitioners have weighed in to give the horse a clean bill of health.

These people show up on my doorstep because they still feel like something isn’t right. They know their horse is behaving ‘badly’, or struggling to perform what should be easy tasks, for a reason. They don’t want to ‘train’ through it, they want to know why their horse is struggling. Without fail, every time I encounter one of these horses, I find they are indeed in pain. This an alarming trend, the number of horses I see at clinics who are struggling because they have unrecognized physical issues that cause anything from nagging discomfort, to balance issues, to pain so intense they lash out.

So why is it that competent, well trained professionals are missing something that both the horse’s owner and myself can plainly see, feel, and work with?

I have a theory that we can trace the reason back to that instinctive drive to appear sound as a survival strategy. Any training methods, any palpation techniques, bodywork, or methods of evaluating for lameness that involve obedience, or cause the horse stress could trigger the release of chemicals that put the horse in fight or flight mode, flooding their nervous system with adrenaline and effectively masking pain to the degree sub-clinical lameness won’t be visible. I believe the reason we, as a horse’s primary care-giver might still think something is wrong is because there is a bond of trust that isn’t always there with others that come in to evaluate. Our horses show us things in those moments of trust that would otherwise remain invisible.

From my perspective the most humane and compassionate thing we can do is assume a behavior problem is valid rather than naughty, lazy or bad, and work our butts off to find the source of the horse’s physical, mental or emotional discomfort. Then we can focus our efforts toward movement practices that support the weak area to promote comfort, and ultimately soundness. If you feel your horse has an issue trust your gut and keep seeking answers until you find them. No one knows your horse better than you. And your horse likely doesn’t trust anyone else more than you!

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Constantly trying to bite people. He was overtly lame but had gone untreated for so long he could hardly stand to be touched and was very angry.

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During an osteopathy treatment where it was found he had internal adhesions that prevented him from standing straight behind. I can’t imagine how much that hurt.

Remember, horses are masters at not limping. A limping horse is predator bait. If a training method causes stress it’s releasing chemicals that help them mask pain. If the vet exam or body work causes pain in the course of diagnostics it’s releasing those same chemicals. Bottom line, if your horse is stressed it’s that much harder to pinpoint subtle sources of pain or discomfort. Your horse is far more likely to show you what’s bothering them than a total stranger because they know you are looking and they trust you. Don’t let him down. Keep seeking!

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Everyone said he was lazy. He had a severely pulled back muscle, insulin resistance and early stages of cushings.

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You aren’t dancing with the fence post!

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That aha moment when Deb realized she wasn’t dancing with the fence post she was focused on, she was dancing with her horse!

Everyone knows, when you want to go somewhere with your horse, you look where you are going. We know how important it is to be focused when we work with a horse. I see people dutifully focused on the destination all the time. Their entire body and mind focused on that fence post, arena marker, cone, the other side of that twenty-meter circle with such determination to execute. It is what we are taught to do if we want our horses to follow our lead. It seems like a reasonable idea so we do it, and our horses dutifully follow along often enough to validate the theory.

I get it, but my horse is NOT already at that destination I focus on so intently that my entire body and mind are committed to THAT goal. My horse is right underneath me, behind me, or beside me. This strategy of looking to our destination works just great when our horse goes with us. But what if he doesn’t? That fragile thread that connects us breaks along with the harmony we, hopefully, seek. When we commit so fully to the destination we lose our ability to adapt to what our horse needs to move with us.

Determined focus on the destination takes us away from being right here, right now with our horse. To dance, we must go together. Do I need to be focused? Absolutely. Does it help to have a clear intention and destination in mind? Absolutely. But ultimately, it is not about the post, is it? It’s about the connection with my horse from one moment to the next. My focused attention and intention should primarily be my connection with my horse. My secondary focus is where we are going and how we are going to get there. Now I can use my focus on my destination with tact and subtly, ensuring that my horse is able to follow me there with ease and clarity.

We have to be careful what we focus on with our horses. Small things, like this bit of training wisdom to look where you are going and focus on the destination, can translate into an emotional tone that is intense and unforgiving. We might start to carry over all the stress and goal-oriented drive we have at work into the partnership with our horse. When we do that, we lose sight of the journey in favor of the destination. That rarely fosters harmonious relationships with anyone, let alone our horses, and can unintentionally cause the very ‘training issues’ or ‘behavior problems’ we think we need to fix.

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